Thursday, September 11, 2008
Ten Ways We Misunderstand Children
1. We expect children to be able to do things before they are ready. - We ask an infant to keep quiet. We ask a 2-year-old to sit still. We ask a 4-year-old to clean his room. In all of these situations, we are being unrealistic. We are setting ourselves up for disappointment and setting up the child for repeated failures to please us. Yet many parents ask their young children to do things that even an older child would find difficult. In short, we ask children to stop acting their age.
2. We become angry when a child fails to meet our needs. - A child can only do what he can do. If a child cannot do something we ask, it is unfair and unrealistic to expect or demand more, and anger only makes things worse. A 2-year-old can only act like a 2-year-old, a 5-year-old cannot act like a 10-year-old, and a 10-year-old cannot act like an adult. To expect more is unrealistic and unhelpful. There are limits to what a child can manage, and if we don't accept those limits, it can only result in frustration on both sides.
3. We mistrust the child's motives. - If a child cannot meet our needs, we assume that he is being defiant, instead of looking closely at the situation from the child's point of view, so we can determine the truth of the matter. In reality, a "defiant" child may be ill, tired, hungry, in pain, responding to an emotional or physical hurt, or struggling with a hidden cause such as food allergy. Yet we seem to overlook these possibilities in favor of thinking the worst about the child's "personality".
4. We don't allow children to be children. - We somehow forget what it was like to be a child ourselves, and expect the child to act like an adult instead of acting his age. A healthy child will be rambunctious, noisy, emotionally expressive, and will have a short attention span. All of these "problems" are not problems at all, but are in fact normal qualities of a normal child. Rather, it is our society and our society's expectations of perfect behavior that are abnormal.
5. We get it backwards. - We expect, and demand, that the child meet our needs - for quiet, for uninterrupted sleep, for obedience to our wishes, and so on. Instead of accepting our parental role to meet the child's needs, we expect the child to care for ours. We can become so focussed on our own unmet needs and frustrations that we forget this is a child, who has needs of his own.
6. We blame and criticize when a child makes a mistake. - Yet children have had very little experience in life, and they will inevitably make mistakes. Mistakes are a natural part of learning at any age. Instead of understanding and helping the child, we blame him, as though he should be able to learn everything perfectly the first time. To err is human; to err in childhood is human and unavoidable. Yet we react to each mistake, infraction of a rule, or misbehavior with surprise and disappointment. It makes no sense to understand that a child will make mistakes, and then to react as though we think the child should behave perfectly at all times.
7. We forget how deeply blame and criticism can hurt a child. - Many parents are coming to understand that physically hurting a child is wrong and harmful, yet many of us forget how painful angry words, insults, and blame can be to a child who can only believe that he is at fault.
8. We forget how healing loving actions can be. - We fall into vicious cycles of blame and misbehavior, instead of stopping to give the child love, reassurance, self-esteem, and security with hugs and kind words.
9. We forget that our behavior provides the most potent lessons to the child. - It is truly "not what we say but what we do" that the child takes to heart. A parent who hits a child for hitting, telling him that hitting is wrong, is in fact teaching that hitting is right, at least for those in power. It is the parent who responds to problems with peaceful solutions who is teaching his child how to be a peaceful adult. So-called problems present our best opportunity for teaching values, because children learn best when they are learning about real things in real life.
10. We see only the outward behavior, not the love and good intentions inside the child.- When a child's behavior disappoints us, we should, more than anything else we do, "assume the best". We should assume that the child means well and is only behaving as well as possible considering all the circumstances (both obvious and hidden from us), together with his level of experience in life. If we always assume the best about our child, the child will be free to do his best. If we give only love, love is all we will receive.
By Jan Hunt, M.Sc.
Carrots, Eggs & Coffee Beans
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last, ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"
"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. The daughter did and noted that they were soft.
She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hardboiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked. "What's the point, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Which are you?
Are you the carrot that when faced with pain and adversity, wilts and becomes soft and loses strength?
Are you the egg with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Following a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have you become hardened and stiff?
Or are you like the coffee beans? The beans actually change the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, they release their essence and flavor.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity?
We must never forget 9/11 and all that we lost that day. This is my very favorite tribute song. I remember when I heard the news, never thought such an act of terrorism would happen on American soil .
here are a few more videos on the same loss.
and of course Alan Jackson's tribute.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Food lion has the No Worries drink mixers (strawberry, cosmopolitaion, tropical, margarita) on sale for $1. At my Food Lion on the door there is a coupon for $1 off any so that makes them free. I got 8 tonight. I mix them with sprite but some people use club soda and of course alcohol. Here are some recipes to try.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Thursday, August 14, 2008
In my email I got a yes to a mystery shop this weekend, and 2 online surveys for points and also an offer from shespeaks to test some potatoes. Also an offer for a free game from BigFish use the code and get hidden expeditions titanic for free. I love hidden object games.
New contest at DIY for an awesome log cabin
get some free tokens from Pogo
and some more and again
new survey panel from Taco Bell, could be some freebies in this.
Sunday, August 10, 2008
free popcorn cakes from Orville Redenbacher Pick cheddar or caramel.
Sample of Playtex Sport
sample of Kotex
sample of Tide Total Care
Saturday, August 09, 2008
I also won a $50 amex debit card from Kraft a couple nights ago.
I got my duffel bag from the Marlboro contest in the mail already. I like the instant win games because I like knowing right off the bat if I have won something even if its not a big prize. I just like winning something all the time :) So here are a few instant win games for you to try.
Pier 1 design a room and play the instant win.
Castrol Peel Out use upc code 079191000687
Disney Store Dreams
Line X passcode: store
Win Dole Salad
Coinstar is Free
French Toast Giveaway
Stouffers Free Method of Entry: Once on the Instant Win Game page, click on "USE CODE". You will receive an alternate method of entry play ten times per day.
Sunday, August 03, 2008
Donate to the Troopsyou can donate 1 item for free to the troops. Go to Generation Kill
choose the troop drive tab. then click the submit button and it will open a new window and you pick one item to add to the troops. Free from HBO and sponsors.
5 of 8x10 size photo prints at Art Cow for $0.99 shipped.
coupon code: FIVE8X10AT099 expires on 08/08/2008
I will admit I wasn't impressed with the last ones I got from there but I figured for a dollar I would try again.
new promotion they are having for Labor Day. Wear a shirt with a football team on it, and get a free chick-n-strips on sept 1st!
SPONSOR: Chick-Fil-A ...
HOW TO PARTICIPATE: To receive one (1) free three-count order of Chick-n-Strips while supplies last, eligible participants should visit participating Chick-fil-A locations from 10:30 AM until close on Sept. 1, 2008 wearing atleast one visible article of clothing that contains any football team logo or collegiate logo and mention this Promotion. ...
ELIGIBILITY: Offer available only to legal U.S. residents of AL, AR AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IA, IL, IN, KS, LA, MA, MD, MO, MS, NC, NH, NJ, NM, OH, OK, PA, SC, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI, WV, and WY. Limit one per person.
Museums in NC
if you check this out you can see what all places participate and then you fill out a form and print a coupon for you and a guest to enter free. I choose Old Salem since I have wanted to see it for ages. If you aren't in NC then change to your state and see whats available. Its for Sept 27 2008
This site doesn't show everything but its pretty fun to play with.
I bought a can of Grands biscuits on sale for 1.00 so now for that $1 we are going hot dog blankets for dinner. You press a biscuit until its flat, lay 1/2 slice of cheese on one of the edges and then put a weiner in the middle of the cheese. Start rolling up the end that has the cheese and weiner on it and press the edge closed when done. Bake in at 350 for about 8-12 minutes and thats all there is to it. Kids love them and they are quick and easy to fix. This will actually end up being 2 dinners for us.
Saturday, August 02, 2008
Sisterhood of traveling pants2
Open to all in the contiguous US, one entry per person/email address per day. Ends August 11, 2008 @ 11:59pm PT
Grand Prize: (1 winner) Earnest AM I jean, digital photo cube, BeDazzler stud-setting tool with assorted studs and crystals, Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2 soundtrack CD, tank tee, mini-tote, charm key chain, visor, lip balm lanyard and beach ball (ARV $299)
Runners-Up: (4 winners) Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2 soundtrack CD, tank tee, mini-tote, charm key chain, visor, lip balm lanyard and beach ball (ARV $65)
Food network tools for school
21+, US, one entry per person/email address per day. Ends September 2, 2008 @ 5:00pm ET
Prize: (1 winner) $55,000 check
13+, US, one entry per person/email address every 24-hours. Ends August 30, 2008 @ midnight ET
Grand Prize: (1 winner) LG 32" 720p flat-panel LCD HDTV (ARV $949.95)
First Prize: (5 winners) Verizon VX9700-Dare, AT&T CU920 VU or Alltel AX830 Glimmer mobile phone (ARV $409-$449)
Second Prize: (4 winners) LG 8" portable DVD player (ARV $209.95)
Third Prize: (7 winners) LG Bluetooth wireless headset (ARV $79.99)
Its a glam thing
Prizes (5): Hot Pants Cosmetics Op Art Mineral Eyeshadow kit and Light Up Lip Gloss tool (ARV $156).
Open to residents of the U.S. 18+ daily per person ends Sunday, August 31, 2008
Halloween Dream Sweepstakes
Two night stay at the Historic Grace Manor Inn in Richmond, VA
Two tickets for Halloween Haunt at Kings Dominion
Two tickets to the Ashland Berry Farm Haunted Hayride
A spooky getaway for four to the Great Wolf Lodge in Williamsburg, VA
Four tickets to Colonial Williamsburg’s Legends, Myths, Mysteries, and Ghosts walking tour.
Tickets for four to the Haunted Hayride and Barn at Cows-n-Corn in Midland, VA
A Halloween Dream gift basket.
Sweepstakes ends August 29, 2008
All you giveaways
First Prize: Westinghouse Digital 16" flip-style LCD HDTV (ARV $329).
Second Prizes (5): BIC Mark-It permanent markers, highlighters, dry-erase markers, pens, pencils, and Wite-Out (ARV $65).
Third Prizes (10): Selection of Westcott school tools (ARV $30).
Open to residents of the 50 United States & D.C. 21+ daily per person
ends Thursday, August 28, 2008
$25- Nokia/Verizon Joker's bag of cash,
5 song download from logitech,
$10 Esprit.com shopping voucher,
Get Smart Adult Movie Ticket from Subway,
High Sierra® Switch Blade 22" Sport Duffel Bag from Flavor Chase sweepstakes,
the other Boleyn girl dvd from sheknows.com
So keep on entering, you never know when the next winner could be you.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
"LOS ANGELES -- Estelle Getty, the diminutive actress who spent 40 years struggling for success before landing a role of a lifetime in 1985 as the sarcastic octogenarian Sophia on TV's "The Golden Girls," has died. She was 84.
Getty, who suffered from advanced dementia, died at about 5:30 a.m. Tuesday at her Hollywood Boulevard home, said her son, Carl Gettleman of Santa Monica.
"She was loved throughout the world in six continents, and if they loved sitcoms in Antarctica she would have been loved on seven continents," her son said. "She was one of the most talented comedic actresses who ever lived."
"The Golden Girls," featuring four female retirees sharing a house in Miami, grew out of NBC programming chief Brandon Tartikoff's belief that television was ignoring its older viewers.
Three of its stars had already appeared in previous series: Bea Arthur in "Maude," Betty White in "The Mary Tyler Moore Show" and Rue McClanahan in "Mama's Family." The last character to be cast was Sophia Petrillo, the feisty 80-something mother of Arthur's character. "
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Zantac CD offer
Get a FREE** Music CD
when you purchase any Zantac® product.
Choose from a series of "Best of" CDs featuring original recordings by these famous artists: Willie Nelson, Ray Charles, Teddy Pendergrass, Marvin Gaye, Juice Newton, Robert Goulet, Glenn Miller, and Aaron Neville.
**Limit one (1) free music CD per person, per household, address, or e-mail address. Requests must be made by 11:59 p.m. EST on 8/31/08. Offer only good for current legal residents of the 50 United States and Puerto Rico who are 18 years of age or older. Offer rights not transferable. Void where prohibited. Allow 4-6 weeks for shipment of music CD. Requests without zip codes or with post office boxes cannot be honored. Not valid in combination with any other offers. Fraudulent submission could result in federal prosecution under mail fraud statutes. Boehringer Ingelheim Pharmaceuticals, Inc. (“Sponsor”) is not responsible for delayed, postage-due, illegible, mutilated, late, lost, incomplete, stolen or misdirected mail. Sponsor will not honor requests that do not include all requested information. Offer ends at 11:59 p.m. EST on 8/31/08.
Roomful OF Blues Talkin' To You Eye To Eye - there is actually a whole bunch of mp3s for free here.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
I have only been doing contests a few days and I have won a few little things like some chips from Subway but I also won $25 from a contest. Not major money but better than no money :)
Congratulations! You've won $25*!
Ah, why so serious? And why are you still here? You won your prize and Gotham City could use a few good crime scenes - so let's go pick a fight with The Dark Knight! Just clickety-click the link to Gotham City. It won't be long before we run into Batman, I'm sure!
Fight for Gotham City
DISCLAIMER: Your prize will be delivered to the address you provided at registration within 4-6 weeks!
I also won $16 on the powerball drawing last night. Since I had spent $16 for the ticket at least for a change I broke even and its good until the end of the month so maybe I might come in ahead for once.
Sunday, July 06, 2008
I also went by Foodlion because I needed cat food and saw they had some ham on sale buy 1 lb and get 1 lb free. I had a catalina for $2.00 off deli meat so for $4.37 I got 12.76 worth of ham.
The rest of the day I have been scanning pictures from my albums. We had a leak and quite a number of my picts got ruined so now I am scanning everything so it won't happen again. I am going to burn them all to cd but also upload them to photobucket so anyone in the family can get whatever ones they want also.
Friday, July 04, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
This man is so amazing. I love his work.
This man is so talented. Here are a few of his carvings. Notice that everything is carved from wood. Its just amazing that anyone is that talented.
And here is a link to his flickr acct to view more of his work
http://www. flickr. com/photos/paul_ingram/
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
I have decided to take matters in hand and learn all I can online about this disease and how to get over it. I just turned 40 and my granddaughter will be 1 this month. I am not ready to die yet.
Here is something from the Mayo Clinic about MRSA.
MRSA infection is caused by Staphylococcus aureus bacteria — often called "staph." MRSA stands for methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus. It's a strain of staph that's resistant to the broad-spectrum antibiotics commonly used to treat it. MRSA can be fatal.
Most MRSA infections occur in hospitals or other health care settings, such as nursing homes and dialysis centers. It's known as health care-associated MRSA, or HA-MRSA. Older adults and people with weakened immune systems are at most risk of HA-MRSA. More recently, another type of MRSA has occurred among otherwise healthy people in the wider community. This form, community-associated MRSA, or CA-MRSA, is responsible for serious skin and soft tissue infections and for a serious form of pneumonia.
I have CA-MRSA.
Sunday, May 25, 2008
How To Live Your Life
by Phylameana lila Desy
Everyone has made poor choices or done something in their past that could possibly be labeled as "regrettable." But, think about it. The fact that you are now able to look back and realize that a mistake or mis-step occurred means you have learned a valuable lesson. Some of my choices may have landed me in unpleasant circumstances, but experiencing these things certainly built my current character. I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for those character-building situations. Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving life... No need for you to sink into regret or despair -- keep your chin up!
1) Acknowledge a mistake has been made - It is easy to play the blame game, pointing fingers at someone else or cirmcumstances as to why you have stumbled or why your life is difficult. Taking personal ownership that your past actions resulted in bringing about your current reality is the first step to moving past regrets and moving toward a brighter future..
2) Make amends - If your past actions or words have harmed another person an apology may be in order. Or not, apologies can be tricky. Judge for yourself if an apology will help matters or only drudge up old wounds better left alone. But, definitely forgive yourself! Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. Continuely berating yourself for past actions is self-defeating. Would you kick a dog while it was laying down? Of course not. Please don't do this to yourself. Righting a wrong is not always feasible. If you feel badly about a past action you've taken that cannot be righted, forgive yourself, and let it go..
3) Do-overs - Sometimes feelings of regret arise not from our past actions, but from our non-actions. Have you ever regretted not taking a vacation, staying stuck in a dead-end job, not attending college... or whatever? It may be too late to reverse those decisions, but you still have options. Some colleges offer free classes for seniors. You might not have the time, money, or physical endurance to travel, but you can rent movies or attend travelog showings about the regions you wish to learn more about. New opportunities are available around every corner if you just open your heart and follow your dreams..
4) Be grateful - The most valuable lessons learned in life often come from the mistakes we make. It may take a walk down a dark alley to see clearly. Embrace your follies, feel gratitude for getting past the worst episodes and eventually finding your way along a less-cluttered path..
5) Be careful not to repeat the same mistake - A skinned-knee teaches a small child not to run so fast. Slow-down. If you are repeatedly faced with similar difficulties over and over again, this is a sure bet that you have not learned the lessons these situations are trying to teach. Opportunity will surface only after you take responsibility for faulty actions taken and change your current and future behaviors accordingly..
6) Be watchful of future knee-jerk reactions - This is probably the toughest step, not reacting negatively to situations or the people who tend to push your buttons. We don't always have control over the things life tosses in front of us, but we do control our reactions. Stay calm. Introduce stress-management into your daily life. Meditation helps clear and focus the mind. Therapeutic play will help balance work-related stresses..
7) Looking deeper inside - Re-evaluate the direction your life is taking. Have you accepted that your past mistakes are just that --- in the past? Focus on today. Become aware of your future goals and desires. Setting clear intentions will help clear the path so that your life progresses with a freer heart and increased happiness. The best is yet to come! Believe it..
* Remember nobody is perfect, Including yourself!
* Forgiveness is golden!
* Live for today, Yesterday was then!
The day started innocently enough. I had had the bright idea to go to my sister's and go to the park near her where she had taken some really cute pictures as a lure apparently. We get to my sister's in plenty of time and visit a few minutes. Then my brother-in-law loads up the boys and the dog in his vehicle and Mandi and I ride with my sister.
We go to Sloan park (think thats the name) and get out and carry the food to the tables. Hot dogs were great.
The boys were more interested in playing than eating though.
So then in my wonderful niceness bring out bubbles for my sister and myself to play with. I had already given the boys their bubble packets.
Then we go to the mill and take some pics of the water wheel. It was funny because we kept fussing at the boys to not touch the fence and break it and as soon as Lisa and I posed in front we broke the fence and had to fix it.
then we walk up to the little covered building place that I really wanted to see because its always so cute in Lisa's pictures. They were having a wedding though so we couldn't get close. The bride is in a fancy wedding gown and a horse drawn carriage then all the guests were in shorts and stuff. Not exactly kosher.
So this is the part where my devious sister says let's go to Dan Nicholas park and I in my naive guilibitily agree. We get back in the vehicles and off we go. We pass Dan Nicholas park and I say "theres the park", Lisa says with an evil smile on her face "I thought we would go to the eagle preservation trail instead".
We drive on and leave the paved road (my first clue) then we all notice how this road looks like the road from wrong turn. ( http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0295700/ ) We keep going though. We get to the parking area and there are all sorts of trucks there. Not a single human being though (clue 2) So off we go on the trails.
There isn't a sound at all and no birds whatsover. (clue 3) We keep joking about the wrong turn and keep walking. I notice there are some spots on Jason's(brother in law) leg. He checks and they are ticks. During this walk I bet Jason got a hundred ticks on him. There were a million spiders. I haven't ever seen so many spiders crawling on the ground in my life. There were spider webs as big as humans. We walked and we walked and we walked.
During the entire 2 hours and 36 minutes we never saw another human being nor a single eagle. I honestly reached the point where I just knew I wasn't going to make it out. I got slower and slower until finally I was the last person on the trail. We turn around and go back the way we have come because we are all hot, thirsty, and tired. Finally after the longest and worse walk of my life we make it out. My wonderful nephew Daniel comes back onto the trail to bring me a can of coke. Let me tell you I haven't ever had such a wonderful coke in my life. There is an evil little man sitting in front of our car in a golf cart laughing at us. All of the trucks that were there are now gone. We finally leave the death trap and go back home.
Lisa later tries to convince me it was only 4 miles but then I realize we didn't make a circle, we turned around and back tracked so bascially we walked close to 8 miles.
Lisa is not picking any more places for us to visit.
I look online for directions since I don't go to Charlotte that often and off we go. I have decided that since I get nervous driving in large cities and parking is supposed to be hard to come by that we are going to park and ride the Lynx train. We head to our exit and park and go to the station. It took a bit to figure out the machine to get tickets. It was 2.60 round trip for each of us. Then to the tracks to wait for a train. We pass on the first train because it was so full. Finally the second train shows up and we go on. We grab seats and it turned out to be a real good thing. By the time we stopped at all the stops and made it to our destination it wasn't even standing room only. I haven't ever been so crowded in my life. Finally at Speed Street. We walk around a bit and get some snacks and drinks. Listen to a few of the bands. One called Landsharks was singing Jimmy Buffett music and they were very good. I ask someone which stage Garry was going to be on since I have forgotten to bring the schedule. Turns out he was on the Miller stage. I start forcing my way to the front and taking pictures. Awesome concert all the way around. The trip home on the Lynx was more fun because now we knew to get better seats and there were a couple of young girls who were a riot to have on the train.
Here are some of my favorite photos from the concert.
band called the Landsharks- they were very good.
Gary coming out on stage
a closer view
Sunday, May 04, 2008
I have had a gift card for Walgreen's for over a year now that I hadn't used because I had hated going there so much due to the extreme hassle I always got because of coupons. I go today and complete the proctor gamble register reward sale to get my $20 in RR. Then I decided to go ahead and do the cover girl/olay one. I was not rolling my RR, I was just using regular coupons and going to pay the difference. The clerk stopped my RR from printing and said I was only allowed one RR to print a day. She then showed me on the sales paper where it says 1 RR per day. She refused to let me even buy the Venus Embrace since it would have triggered a RR. I also tried to use a coupon I printed from Walgreen's very own site on Zantac for $5 off any Zantac 150 but since it was on sale for 3.99 they refused to let me use it. They wouldn't adjust the price of the coupon nor the price of the product.I will never shop at Walgreen's again.
Every single time I have went to Walgreen's, and I have been to several different ones, I get extreme hassles. Thank goodness CVS isn't like that.
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Long term financial goals.
1. Buy my own house.
2. save 250000 for retirement (just picking a number out of thin air, will reconsider later)
3. build up $4000 in an emergency fund
Short term financial goals.
1. look for a part time job
2. do more surveys online
3. get better coupon usage
4. save for move to another state
1. 350.00 rent
2. 100.00 car insurance
3. 50.00 electricity (I have gotten this down a good bit in the last couple of months)
4. 33.00 vonage (going to get different service in May)
5. 40.00 gym (writing letter to cancel tomorrow, will still have to pay May)
6. 42.00 Internet (can't do without, I save a lot of money be being online and its my only source of amusement)
7. 190.00 student loan payment
8. 100.00 gasoline and other car fluids but gas keeps going up
9. 120.00 groceries (gonna see how $30 a week works for us)
10. 40.00 laundromat (need to see about buying another washer)
$1065- is the grand total
I bring home $1500 a month currently so that is enough for all my bills and start saving if I stick to the budget.
$2.99 ECB Aquafresh Toothpaste Advanced whitening 6oz or extreme clean 5.6 oz (2.99) LIMIT 3 FREE after ECBs
-$1.50 SS 4/6
-$1.00 SS 4/6
$4.99 ECB Adidas Action 3 Anti Perspirant 2.8oz ($4.99) LIMIT 3 FREE after ECBs
FREE Any adidas action 3 product exp 6/15/08 All You Magazine pg. 85 ( I subscribed through a coworker's kid, they have awesome coupons. I already have a number of ECB to roll so may let my daughter use the coupon to get some bucks on her card. )
Adidas Anti-Perspirant Refund Offer (mail-in) V 4/13/
$4.69 ECB Tums Quik Pak 24 ct ($4.69) LIMIT 2 FREE after ECBs
$10.00 ECB Freestyle Lite or Freedom lite glucose meter ($10.00) LIMIT 2 FREE after ECBs
$3.79 ECB CVS Non Drowsy Allergy Relief 5 ct ($3.79) LIMIT 3 FREE after ECBs
(never can have too much allergy medicine)
$3.99 ECB Colgate 360 clean or deep clean toothbrush ($3.99) LIMIT 3 FREE after ECBs
-$.75 SS 3/30
-$1.00 SS 4/27
Sunday, April 20, 2008
You can get points without ever buying anything. Every day or so, I get about 3-5 e-mails from MyPoints. (Feel free to create an e-mail account just for this purpose. You’ll just want to use the same e-mail address for all of your MyPoints dealings, so your account gets credited).
You click a button to show you’ve read the e-mail, and your account is credited with 5 points usually. If you sign up for the email offers you get more points.
Never shop online without checking out your paying sites to see if they offer points for this.
Use the mypoints bonus bar to get points for searching monthly plus you get a one time 100 point credit.
1. Added Google ad sense ads to page.
2. Going to sign up at inbox dollars.
3. Start doing rebates at walgreen's again.
4. Send off for at least 3 rebates a month.
5. Added a link for revolution money maker. So far I have a couple of sign ups under me.
6. Click on all mypoints ads ( I had enough points to order a $25 CVS gift card so starting fresh)
7. Work harder at rolling all ECB at CVS.
8. any ideas?
Saturday, April 19, 2008
I also got a second glucose monitor for free using a coupon I had that expires the end of this month so wanted to use it up.
2 week multi vitamin sample
sunsilk samples- you can pick all of them
7 day sample of movefree
free tea sample
free dieters tea sample (be careful with these as every one I ever tried only gave you diarrhea)
Saturday, April 12, 2008
First I turned 40 this week. Wasn't that big of a deal. Women at work got me some gifts and bought my lunch. oldest daughter bought me an Elvis blanket, Elvis cd, Lynard Skynard cd and an a Wizard of Oz mug. Youngest daughter got me some yard ornaments.
Oldest daughter has been a major source of grief lately. In the middle of the biggest recession in years she up and quits her job without telling me. Claims she is going to California with some 41 year old man she met online and has been talking to for 2 years. I didn't know about him for ages and had no idea of his age. Now she is blackmailing me telling me that if we move to another state she won't go out there.
I have a burn on my side from a heating pad. Who ever heard of getting 2nd and 3rd degree burns from a heating pad. It got infected so I have been on antibotics for a week now. Life is a mess and doesn't seem to be getting better.
Friday, March 21, 2008
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Chinese poet Li Po 701- 706) is regarded as one of the two greatest poets in China’s literary history. He was well known for his love of liquor and often spouted his greatest poems while drunk.
One night, Li Po fell from his boat and drowned in the Yangtze River while trying to embrace the reflection of the moon in the water.
Death by Beard
Austrian Hans Steininger was famous for having the world’s longest beard (it was 4.5 feet or nearly 1.4 m long) and for dying because of it.
One day in 1567, there was a fire in town and in his haste Hans forgot to roll up his beard. He accidentally stepped on his beard, lost balance, stumbled, broke his neck and died!
Death From Holding a Pee In
Danish nobleman and astronomer Tycho Brahe [wiki] was one interesting fellow. He kept a dwarf as a court jester who sat under the table during dinner. He even had a tame pet moose.
Tycho also lost the tip of his nose in a duel with another Danish nobleman and had to wear a "dummy" nose made from silver and gold, but that’s another story.
It was said that Tycho had to hold his pee during one particularly long banquet in 1601 (getting up in the middle of a dinner was considered really rude) that his bladder, strained to its limits, developed an infection which later killed him!
Later analyses suggested that Tycho died because of mercury poisoning but that’s not nearly as interesting as the original story.
Death by Conductor’s Cane
While conducting the hymnal Te Deum for French King Louis XIV in 1687, Jean-Baptiste Lully was so focused in keeping the rhythm by banging a staff against the floor (this was the method before conductor’s baton came into use), that he struck his toe hard but refused to stop.
The toe developed an abscess, which later turned gangrenous, but Lully refused to have it amputated. The gangrene spread and killed the stubborn musician.
Ironically, the hymn he was conducting was in celebration of the recovery of Louis XIV from an illness.
Death by Dessert
King Adolf Frederick [wiki] of Sweden loved to eat and died from it too!
The "King Who Ate Himself to Death" died in 1771 at the age of 61 from a digestive problem after eating a giant meal consisting of lobster, caviar, saurkraut, cabbage soup, smoked herring, champagne and 14 servings of his favorite dessert: semla [wiki], a bun filled with marzipan and milk.
Death by Jury Demonstration
After the Civil War, controversial Ohio politician Clement Vallandigham [wiki] became a highly successful lawyer who rarely lost a case.
In 1871, he defended Thomas McGehan who was accused of shooting one Tom Myers during a barroom brawl. Vallandigham’s defense was that Myers had accidentally shot himself while drawing his pistol from a kneeling position.
To convince the jury, Vallandigham decided to demonstrate his theory. Unfortunately, he grabbed a loaded gun by mistake and ended up shooting himself!
By dying, Vallandigham succeeded in demonstrating the plausibility of the accidental shooting and got his client acquitted.
Death from Biting One’s Tongue
Allan Pinkerton (1819-1884)[wiki], famous for creating the Pinkerton detective agency and developing investigative techniques such as surveilling a suspect and doing undercover work, died of an infection after biting his tongue when he slipped on a sidewalk!
Death from Stubbing One’s Toe
Famous Tennessee whiskey distiller Jack Daniel [wiki] decided to come in to work early one morning in 1911. He wanted to open his safe but couldn’t remember the combination. In anger, Daniel kicked the safe and injured his toe, which later developed an infection that killed him!
Moral of the story? Don’t go to work early.
Death by Orange Peel
Bobby Leach [wiki] wasn’t afraid to court death: in 1911, he was the second person in the world to go over Niagara Falls in a barrel. The daredevil went on to perform many other death-defying stunts, so his death is especially ironic.
One day while walking down a street in New Zealand, Leach slipped on a piece of orange peel. He broke his leg so badly it had to be amputated. Leach died due to complications that developed afterwards.
Death by Overcoat Parachute Failure
In 1911, French tailor Franz Reichelt decided to test his invention, a combination overcoat and parachute, by jumping off the Eiffel Tower. Actually, he told the authorities that he would use a dummy, but at the last minute decided to test it himself. It was no surprise that he fell to his death.
There’s even a YouTube clip of his fatal jump.
Death by 1) Poison, 2) Gunshot Wound (4x), 3) Beating by Clubs, 4) Drowning.
According to legends, Russian mystic Grigori Rasputin (1869-1916) was first poisoned with enough cyanide to kill ten men, but he wasn’t affected.
So his killers shot him in the back with a revolver. Rasputin fell but later revived. So, he was shot again three more times, but Rasputin still lived. He was then clubbed, and for good measure thrown into the icy Neva River.
Rasputin was finally dead for good.
Death by Baseball
Cleveland Indians shortstop Ray Chapman [wiki] was the only man ever killed by a baseball pitch.
At that time, baseball pitchers dirtied up a ball before it was thrown at the batter to make it harder to see. On August 6, 1920 in a game against the New York Yankees, Carl Mays pitched such a ball towards Chapman that fatally hit his skull.
Death by Scarf
"Mother of modern dance" Isadora Duncan [wiki] was killed in 1927 by her trademark scarf she loved to wear:
As the New York Times noted in its obituary of the dancer on 15 September 1927, "The automobile was going at full speed when the scarf of strong silk began winding around the wheel and with terrific force dragged Miss Duncan, around whom it was securely wrapped, bodily over the side of the car, precipitating her with violence against the cobblestone street. She was dragged for several yards before the chauffeur halted, attracted by her cries in the street. Medical aid was summoned, but it was stated that she had been strangled and killed instantly."
Death by Garbage
Homer and Langley Collyer [wiki] were compulsive hoarders. The two brothers had a fear of throwing anything away and obsessively collected newspapers and other junk in their house. They even set up booby-traps in corridors and doorways to protect against intruders.
In 1947, an anonymous tip called that there was a dead body in the Collyer house, and after much initial difficulty getting in, the police found Homer Collyer dead and Langley no where to be found. About two weeks later, after removing nearly 100 tons of garbage from the house, workers found Langley Collyer’s partialy decomposed (and rat-chewed) body just 10 feet away from where they had found his brother.
Apparently, Langley had been crawling through tunnels of newspapers to bring food to his paralyzed brother when he set off one of his own booby-traps. Homer died several days later from starvation.
(Image Credit) Death at a Talk Show
Jerome Irving Rodale [wiki] was a proponent of healthy eating. He was an early advocate for organic farming and sustainable agriculture, founder of Organic Farming and Gardening magazine and Rodale Press.
After bragging that he would "live to 100, unless I’m run down by a a sugar-crazy taxi driver", Rodale died of a heart attack while being interviewed on the Dick Cavett Show in 1971. Appearing fast asleep, Dick Cavett joked "Are we boring you, Mr. Rodale?" before discovering that his 72-year-old guest had indeed died. The show was never aired.
Death by Suicide During a Live TV News Broadcast
Christine Chubbuck [wiki] was the first and only TV news reporter to commit suicide during a live television broadcast.
On July 15, 1974, eight minutes into the broadcast, the depressed reporter said "In keeping with Channel 40’s policy of bringing you the latest in blood and guts, and in living color, you are going to see another first: an attempted suicide." With that, Chubbuck drew up a revolver and shot herself in the head.
Death on the Toilet
There are several examples of death on the toilet, but that of Elvis Presley (1935 - 1977) was the most famous.
The King of Rock ’n Roll was found lying on the floor of his Graceland mansion’s bathroom after throwing up while being seated on the toilet, taking care of business.
Doctors attributed his death to a heart attack from weight gain and taking too many prescription drugs.
Death by Robot
Robert Williams [wiki] was the first man ever killed by a robot. On January 25, 1979, Williams climbed into a storage rack at the Ford Motor’s Flat Rock casting plant to retrieve a part because the parts-retrieval robot malfunctioned. Suddenly, the robot reactivated and slammed its arm into Williams’ head, killing him instantly.
The second death by robot happened just a couple of years afterwards in 1981. Kenji Urada [wiki], a 37-year-old Japanese maintenance engineer was working on a broken robot at a Kawasaki plant when he failed to turn it off. The robot’s mechanical arm accidentally pushed him into a grinding machine.
Death by Decapitation by Helicopter Rotor Blades
Actor Vic Morrow [wiki] died on the set of Twilight Zone: The Movie when a helicopter spun out of control due to special effect explosions, crashed, and decapitated him with its rotor blades.
Two other child actors also died at the event, which triggered a massive reform in US child labor laws and safety regulations on movie sets.
Death by Cactus
In 1982, 27-year-old David Grundman and a roommate decided to do a little "cactus plugging," by shooting the desert plant with a shotgun.
The first one, a small cactus, went off without a hitch and Grundman was encouraged to try a larger prey: a 26-foot-tall Saguaro cactus, probably a 100-year-old plant. Unfortunately, Grundman blasted off a large chuck of the cactus that fell on him and crushed him to death!
To date, this was probably the only known instance of revenge killing by a plant.
Death by Bottle Cap
American playwright Tennessee Williams [wiki] died in 1983 after he choked on a bottle cap in his hotel room. Yes, he had been drinking.
(Image credit) Death by Drowning at a Lifeguards’ Party.
In 1985, to celebrate their first drowning-free season ever, the lifeguards of the New Orleans recreation department decided to throw themselves a party.
When the party ended, a 31-year-old guest named Jerome Moody was found dead on the bottom of the recreation department’s pool.
We suppose when it’s your time to go, then it’s your time to go: there were four lifeguards on duty and more than half of the 200 party-goers were themselves lifeguards!
(Image credit) Death on Stage, While Telling a Joke
Dick Shawn (1924-1987) was a comedian who had a heart attack and died during a joke that seemed strangely appropriate:
He was making fun of politicians by saying campaign cliches ending with "I will not lay down on the job!" Shawn then laid down on the floor face down. At first, the audience thought that it was all part of the show, until some time later a theater employee checked him for a pulse and began administering CPR.
The paramedics then arrived, and the audience were told to go home - Dick Shawn was dead.
(Image credit) Death by Belly Slam.
British pro wrestler Mal "King Kong" Kirk died underneath the big belly of Shirley "Big Daddy" Crabtree.
In August 1987, during the final moments of the match, Crabtree delivered his signature "Belly-Splash" move (basically jumping up and down, slamming his belly onto a guy) on Kirk, who then had a heart attack and died.
Crabtree was cleared after it was revealed that Kirk had a serious heart condition prior to the match. However, Crabtree blamed himself for Kirk’s death and retired from pro wrestling.
Before the match, Kirk had told his friends: "If I have to go, I hope it is in the ring."
(Image credit) Death by Giant Umbrellas
In 1991, artists Christo and Jeanne-Claude put up an environmental installation art of thousands of giant yellow and blue umbrellas in California and Japan.
The giant umbrellas, which measured about 20 foot (6 m) in height, 28 foot (8.7 m) in diameter and weighed about 500 lb, became a huge tourist attraction.
Less than two months after the installation opened, Lori Rae Keevil-Mathews, a 33-year-old woman drove out to see the umbrellas in California. A wind gust uprooted one of the umbrellas and blew it straight at her, crushing her against a boulder and killing her.
Christo immediately ordered all of the umbrellas taken down. The umbrellas, however, took another life - this time in Japan. Crane operator Masaaki Nakamura was electrocuted when the machine’s arm touched a 65,000-volt high-tension line when removing the umbrellas.
Death by Re-creation
In 1991, a 57-year-old Thai woman Yooket Paen was walking in her farm when she accidentally slipped on a cow dung, grabbed a naked live wire and got electrocuted to death.
Soon after Paen’s funeral, her 52-year-old-sister Yooket Pan was showing her neighbors how the accident happened when she herself slipped, grabbed the same live wire and also got electrocuted to death!
Death by Sheep
In 1999, Betty Stobbs, 67, of Durham, England, took a bale of hay to feed her flock of sheep on the back of her motorcycle.
Apparently, the sheep were very hungry. About forty of them rushed the hay and knocked her off a cliff into a 100-feet deep quarry. Stobbs survived the fall only to be killed when the motorcycle, which was also knocked off the cliff, tumbled down after her.
Death by Necklace Bomb
On the afternoon of August 28, 2003, pizza deliveryman Brian Wells [wiki] tried to rob a bank with a home-made shotgun disguised as a cane.
When he was caught by the police, Wells revealed that he had been forced by some people he delivered pizza to earlier to rob the bank. A necklace with an explosive device was attached to his neck.
The necklace bomb blew up before the bomb squad could deactivate it (indeed, there was controversy whether the police took his story seriously and delayed calling the bomb squad). Until today, it’s unclear whether Wells was a victim, a co-conspirator or the lone perpetrator of the robbery and subsequent death.
Update 3/12/07: Case solved, said the authorities, with indictments expected soon: Link
Death by Stingray
In 2006, Australian wildlife expert and TV personality Steve "The Crocodile Hunter" Irwin [wiki] died when he was stabbed in the heart by a stingray spine while filming a documentary Ocean’s Deadliest.
Death by Bookcase
Mariesa Weber was reported missing by her family for nearly two weeks before they found her in her bedroom, wedged behind a bookcase.
"I’m sleeping in the same house as her for 11 days, looking for her," her mother, Connie Weber, told the St. Petersburg Times. "And she’s right in the bedroom."
Both Weber and her sister had previously adjusted the television plug by standing on a bureau next to the shelf and leaning over the top. Her family believes Weber, who was 5-foot-3 and barely 100 pounds, may have fallen headfirst into the space.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
below, your Chinese Astrology sign is
Feb. 2, 1908 - Jan. 21, 1909 Earth
Feb. 20, 1920 - Feb. 7, 1921 Metal
Feb. 6, 1932 - Jan. 25, 1933 Water
Jan. 25, 1944 - Feb. 12, 1945 Wood
Feb. 12, 1956 - Jan.30, 1957 Fire
Jan. 29, 1968 - Feb. 16, 1969 Earth
Feb. 16, 1980 - Feb. 4, 1981 Metal
Feb. 4, 1992 - Jan. 22, 1993 Water
Feb. 2, 2004 - Feb. 19, 2005 Wood
Of all the twelve signs in the cycle, this one produces people with the most extraordinary nature. The Monkey is mischievous, high-spirited, a joker, who is always full of fun--but he is devious with it. Although he's a sociable creature giving the impression that he gets on famously with everybody, the great rapport is often nothing but a ruse on the Monkey's part: he is in face egotistical and selfish.
Playful, likeable, even obliging at times, he hides the poor opinion he has of others beneath his apparent friendliness. But, to tell the truth, he distrusts people from under any other sign, and considers himself in consequence to be superior to any of them.
The Monkey, it must be amitted, is vain.
He is also something of an intellectual. He has a great thirst for knowledge. He will have ready read everything, seen everything, briefed himself on a great variety of things, and he will be absolutely up to date on everything that's going on in the world. Cultivated and well educated, he has such a fantastic memory that he can recall the tiniest details of everything he has seen, read or heard. This is just as well, for otherwise he has an untidy mind and he relies on this memory a great deal.
Inventive and original in the extreme, the Monkey can solve the most difficult problems with astonishing speed. But once he has decided on a course of action, he must start right away; if he can't, he loses interest and abandons the idea without even trying it.
The Monkey has plenty of intelligence, and a fantastic ability to pull the wool over people's eyes. He is so artful that he can even fool the Dragon--who is strong, stubborn, and no fool himself--he resist the magnetism of the Tiger, whom he teases unmercifully.
The Monkey, as diplomatic as he is sly, will always manage to extricate himself from the most difficult situations. Independent and selfish, nobody's going to put anything over on him! He'll be the one who chooses, thank you very much!
He has few scruples. He won't hesitate to stoop to a lie or some piece of double dealing when its necessary to further his cause. He will continue to be dishonest just as long as he is sure of getting away with it--for one of his characteristics is that he is very rarely caught out or found out. Certain Monkeys will stretch this elastic conscience of theirs to the point of stealing--and even if they are not all thieves, they are certainly all liars!
Whatever he does, though, he's so charming and so clever at making himself liked that we cannot bring ourselves to be cross with him.
In a nutshell, the Monkey is a opportunist. And he's right to be one, because his luck will bring him every opportunity. Despite his negative aspects--the vanity, the lying, the unscrupulousness--people will always seek him out for his intelligence an the sharpness of his wit. Skilful in enterprises of great scope, shrewd and sly in money matters, the Monkey will prove an admirable associate and collaborator in anything requiring a quick wit, clearsightedness, and perhaps a conscience that is fairly easy to satisfy!
He can succeed in any profession. Politics, diplomacy, industry, trade--none of them will have any secrets from him. He can try anything. Anything will work--above all he has been fortunate enough to have a higher education.
The Monkey has a good chance of becoming well known or famous, provided he is allowed to follow his chosen vocation. One thing only threatens his success: he must be careful not to open his mouth too wide. Even with his charm, he can still weary people by talking too much!
Despite a number of financial worries, the Monkey will in general enjoy good situations.
Romantically, though, he will not find happiness. Relations between the opposite sexes will be poor. With his exuberant character, the Monkey will fall easily in love--but he will as quickly tire of the object of his affections and look for another. Alas! He will never find the satisfactory one, and he is not a stable personality. Though he can be passionate, his critical sense and his clear-sightedness combine to cool off his ardor all too quickly.
But his sense of humor saves him from disaster. Luckily for him, he knows more than anyone how to laugh at his own misfortunes and draw the necessary conclusions from them.
The Monkey makes a good partner for the Dragon, who can profit from his guile--while the Monkey in turn can make good use of the Dragon's strength. They can equally well go into business together (though the Monkey may always have the idea at the back of his mind that he might get the better of the deal).
The Monkey gets on well with the Rat, too. The Rat, fascinated by the Monkey's surface brilliance, will put up with all his nonsense and love him passionately all his life--even if it's a one-sided affair.
The Monkey makes fun of the Tiger, but he would be better advised to treat him with respect. Any partnership between them, whether in business or for pleasure, is bound to result in fireworks. The Monkey cannot stand violence--but to laugh at a thing doesn't mean you can't fall a victim to it. The Monkey risks being devoured!
Whatever the sign of his marriage partner, the Monkey is likely to have a lot of children.
The first part of his life will be happy. The second will be upset and confused and his plans will often miscarry. The third will be calm--but will suffer a solitary old age and die far from his family, perhaps accidentally.
WHAT THEY SHOULD BE
It doesn't matter what (as long as the Monkey thinks its worth while taking the trouble). Genial speculator, or stockbroker, redoubtable businessman, famous writer, film-maker in fashion, "with-it" shopkeeper, subtle diplomat, shrewd politician, and also: irresistible crook and con-man.
THE ELEMENTS - THE 5 TYPES OF MONKEYS
The Metal Monkey - 1860, 1920, 1980
This is the fighting Monkey. Strong, sophisticated and independent, he will have an irrepressible urge for financial security. Carpable of making wise investments, this type of Monkey will prefer to run his own business or else earn money from outside work if he has a regular job. He is consistent and will be able to hold on to his savings if he doesn't speculate in risky ventures.
Metal makes him ardent and demonstrative in his affections. He will have high aspirations and may appear to be status-seeking or overdramatic at times in his behaviour.
Characterized by a lively disposition, the passionate Metal Monkey can be warm, positive and very convincing. He will sell you anything conceivable and his designs, if he is creative, will be both aesthetic and useful. The Metal Monkey could be an excellent trend-setter.
When he is negative, the analytical Metal Monkey can be exceedingly self-conscious and proud. His loyalties will be few and linked only to himself.
Hard-working and practical, he suns assistance from others and will be more than able to take care of his own interests.
WATER MONKEY --- 1872, 1932, 1992
This is a cooperative but speculative Monkey. "You scratch my back & I'll scratch yours" sort of person. Yet, in spite of his dignified and worldly appearance, this type of Monkey takes offense easier than other Monkeys. He will have a secretive although kind nature, and can be heft and patient in the pursuit of his objectives.
Water mated with his native signimparts to him a greater sense of purpose. But he will know not to be too direct or obvious in showing his intentions. He can compromise with grace and will know how to work around barriers rather than waste his time and energy in knocking them down.
The Water Monkey will have flair and originality; he motivates himself as well as others with his pleasant ways, and his ideas meet little resistance because of his ingenious way of introducing them. He will present things in their best possible light. He has a keen understanding of how human relationships function and will use this knowledge to achieve his ends.
When he decides to be negative, the Water Monkey can suffer from lack of direction. He vacillate and becomes in turn erractic, evasive and meddling.
WOOD MONKEY -- 1884, 1944, 2004
Good communications with others will be essential to this type of Monkey. But he will not like to pry into the affairs of those around him if possible, and prides himself on being able to keep his house and accounts in good order.
Although he is basically honorable and desirous of prestige, this Monkey will be restles and have a strong pioneering spirit. He is aware of everything that is going on around him and is very curious about new inventions or modes of thinking. The Wood element gives him an intuitive mind which will be able to foresee the course of events. He searches constantly for answers and will not take setbacks calmly.
While maintaining his own admirable standards, the Wood Monkey will strive constantly to elevate himself above his present station. He is always looking foward and never quite satisfied with what he has. On the lookout for greener pastures, thi stype of Monkey will leap at new challenges.
This resourceful person will establish order in whatever work he decides to take up. He is rarely given to exaggeration or speculation. Carefully, carefully, he whittles away the opposition bit by bit.
FIRE MONKEY -- 1896, 1956, 2016* (America was born in 1776 - year of the Fire Monkey)
An energetic, gesticulating Monkey, who will show traits of being a natural leader and innovator. He is self-assured and determined, expressive and truthful with his emotions and very interested in the opposite sex.
The Fire element will lend him great vitality, and he will have a tendence to dominate or teach those less aggressive than himself. He will possess a fertile imagination and shuld not let his ideas run away with him. He is inventive, but not always careful.
The Fire Monkey will have a powerful and constant drive to be on the top of his professionsla field. He is conpetitive to the extreme and will be capable of great jealously. His creativity is born of willpower, necessity and initiative, and these will enable him to upstage others and keep one step ahead of the game.
The Fire Monkey is the most forceful of all of the Monkeys. He relishes being in full control and can be opinionated, stubborn, and argumentative when he is negative. He is lucky in speculative ventures and he can correctly evaluate risks. But in spite of the bold and collected face he presents to the public, this type of Monkey hides morbid suspicions of how others may be deceiving him.
EARTH MONKEY -- 1908, 1968, 2028
A placid and reliable Monkey who may have a cool and collected nature. He is expansive and given to disinterested acts of charity. He quietly demands admiration and appreciation for his talents and services, and when this is not forthcoming, he can sulk and become insolent.
He is likely to be an intellectual and will be academically studious or very well read if he cannot pursue a higher education. Generally, he will be honest and straightforward and will achieve distinction through his thoroughness and devotion to duty.
The Earth Monkey will NOT be too fond of entertaining unless it is a necessity, but he will be genuinely kind and loving to those he cares for. Less concerned about his ego, he can devote himself unselfishly to the good of all. He will value his integrity and can even be overconscienctious about operating only within the law.
FAMOUS PEOPLE BORN IN THE YEAR OF THE MONKEY
John Milton Federico Fellini
Paul Gauguin Walter Mattau
Lyndon B. Johnson Milton Berle
Harry Truman Leonardo da Vinci
Eleanor Roosevelt Charles Dickens
Mick Jagger Queen Sirikit of Thailand
Duchess of Windsor
information taken from The Handbook of Chinese Horoscopes, by Theodora Lau
Monday, March 17, 2008
My Name is Gossip.
I have no respect for justice, I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives. I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age. The more I am quoted, The more I am believed. I flourish at every level of society. My victims are helpless. They can-not protect themselves against me, Because I have no name and no face. To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, The more elusive I become. I am no-body's friend. I tarnish a reputation, It is never the same. I topple Governments and wreck marriages. I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
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30 Destructive Principles of Gossip
1-People who gossip give themselves away. They tell how they truly feel about someone, but tell everyone BUT them.
2-People who gossip don't want to know the truth. If they did they would ask the one involved.
3-People who gossip believe lies, WANT to believe lies, and persuade others to believe lies.
4-Gossip is censorship and gross injustice. The one involved has no right to defend him/herself. Gossip is a Kangaroo Court.
5-People who gossip deceive themselves. They deny it is gossip by calling it by something else to justify it.
6-Gossip is conspiracy. "A plot by two or more people against..."
7-Gossip doesn't want to know "The rest of the story."
8-Because of judgmental attitudes, the one who gossips will avoid and alienate the subject of the gossip, believing lies. Usually, how much they gossip is proportional to how much they avoid them.
9-The one hearing the lie, then finding out the truth later on - will continue to cling to the original story, and will wind up still avoiding the one involved, since it's too humiliating to admit they were wrong. Subsequently, the subject of the gossip is the one who suffers alienation.
10-If you are carnally minded, your thinking will "Dovetail" with the mentality of the gossip system and it's whole network of lies. You will twist convenient pieces of any argument to support preconceived thinking.
11-Gossip sows seeds of mistrust. The ones involved cause the subject of the gossip to lose faith in them.
12-There is no accountability and no responsibility with gossip. A tabloid mentality says anything about anyone for any reason, and answers to no one.
13-However, gossip is worse than tabloid newspapers! At least with them, you can go to the local newsstand to find out what they are saying about you!
14-Gossip polarizes people. The gossiper winds up resenting the subject of the gossip, true or not.
15-Carnally minded people who hear the gossip know that it is a lie because they don't inconvenience themselves to find out the truth.
16-If they do hear "The rest of the story" they "Play the devil's advocate" against the victim.
17-Gossip is a "loyal" one way street. Mrs. A is loyal to Mrs. B. If you tell A something about B, she will check with B to verify it. But if they talk about YOU (an outsider), they will NEVER tell you what they said to verify anything. To question it would be for them to betray each other.
18-Gossip goes into denial by sticking to the original story, and grasping for straws to avoid truth.
19-Gossip has the uncanny ability of drawing more and more conclusions on less and less info.
20-When gossip reaches "Critical Mass", you have a lynch mob mentality. (Remember Rigoletto?)
21-Gossip has a "Built-it seeking mechanism". It gravitates toward those who promote it, and avoid those who expose it.
22-Gossip has a built-in protection mechanism:
a-Pride stands in the way of admitting that they gossip - so never find out the truth from "The horse's mouth".
b-Pride stands in the way of finding out the truth for fear they may have been wrong.
c-The more time goes by, the more cemented they are in their belief that it is true. Hitler once said "If you tell a lie long enough, people will believe it."
d-Pride stands in the way of apologizing to the subject that they drew conclusions without knowing all the facts.
e-The more loyal they are in their relationship, the more protected the gossip is. Just like the "Solemn oath" all the elephants took when gossiping about "Mrs. Jumbo and Dumbo". If the gossipers have a strongly established loyal tie with each other, the gossip is like protecting a secret oath.
23-Why is it when one gossips to another about a third person, it alienates that person. If they tell C what A said, they alienate themselves from A, if they tell A what B said, it alienates them from B.
24-Gossip uses sincere people unwittingly, causing lies to be more convincing, since those who hear them think they are the truth, and only perpetuate the scenario.
25-Gossip has the uncanny ability of benefiting the gossipers in areas of approbation, flattery, "mutual enemy society", all at the victim's expense.
26-After so much time goes by, people only have a general opinion of you (bad) w/o remembering the details and lies. Consequently, attempts to set the record straight is futile. (ie. The 10 O'clock news)
27-By taking part in gossip, in the final analysis you are an "Accessory to the crime".
28-Because of this, there is a "blackmail" protection built into it because each party can preventing them from "blowing the whistle" on each other.
29-The door is now wide open for gossip to have free reign. Once one gossip session is permitted, a precedent is now set for others - even sessions about YOU!
30-Beware! How much someone talks to you about others may be how much they talk to others about you!
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The most tragic element is the topic of the gossip is very rarely any of the concern of the person carry on the gossip. Further, it is almost always motivated by one vile element, jealousy.
Gossip is seductive.
No one can emphatically say that he is immune to gossip. Sometimes, some unintentional and casual remark or a joke to break the monotony makes rumour and gossip wheel to rotate.
It gathers momentum when the listener gives credence to it, lubricates the rumour and gossip wheel in repeating it to others; ultimately the wheel developing enough momentum and potential to tear us apart like a bulldozer.
Though Gossip generally means malicious talking about some individual, it also encompasses informal communication about objects or events - not just people. Gossip can be true or false or both, but there is no denying the fact that it is universal.
Gossip reigns where angels fear to trade
Gossip generally flourishes in work place culture that is not transparent.
It is rampant in our lives where there is lack of trust in relationships - relationship between each other and loved ones.
When there is lack of communication between us of information particularly at a time of an impending crisis, it creates a vacuum.
For the most part, people feel frustrated out of fake and imaginary fears. People develop their own assumptions and surmises. They start saying all sorts of things behind each-others' back.
Rumour and Gossip develop and spiral outwards like a tornado. The central theme is - "Nature avers a Vacuum" and if there is a vacuum in communication, rumor and gossip rush to fill it.
People will continue to talk about others.
But, however, we have a choice how we handle the stuff, how we respond. Wisdom lies in not confronting Gossip, but accepting it as a natural social behaviour .
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their
journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one
is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no
for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.
Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years,
will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends
will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you
did or didn't do.
35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,
we'd grab ours back.
41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don't ask, you don't get.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
Zodiac Sign Characteristics
Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating, tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. one guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. loves music. pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth. Stubborn. A fighter. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance your personality.
Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever. Changing
personality. Attractive. sexiest out of everyone. Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest and loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easily but does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions. Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone new and realize that you are a perfect match.
Attractive personality. sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity. Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others.If you repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your new love in 9 days.
Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confident. Sensitive. Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer evryone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. hott but has brains. If you repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that's caught your eye will introduce themself and you will realize that you are very much alike in the next 2 days.
Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs no motivation. Shy towards oppisite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike being at home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking. High spirited. If you repost this in the next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone you do not speak to much in the next 4 days.
You've got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive record collection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck, you've got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you will meet someone that may possibly become oneof your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.
Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable. Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive and forms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to be alone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits for friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover.
Repost this in the next 5 mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days
Outgoing personality. Takes risks. Feeds on attention. Kind hearted. self confident. loud and boisterous. revengeful. easy to get along with and talk to. has an "every thing's peachy" attitude. likes talking and singing. loves music. daydreamer. easily distracted. hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. LOVES to be LOVED. hates studying. in need of "that someone". longs for freedom. rebellious when withheld or restricted. lives by "no pain no gain". caring. always a suspect. playful. mysterious. "charming" or "beautiful" to everyone. stubborn. curious. independent. strong willed. a fighter. repost in 5 mins and you will meet the love of your life sometime next month.
Active and dynamic. Attractive and affectionate. Strong mentality. Loves attention.
Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave and fearless.
Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand. if you do not repost this in the next 5 mins, someone very close to you will become mad at you in the next 8 days.
Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will not meet the love of your life for 10 years.
Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards your inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people easily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. If you ever begin a relationship with someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of a kind. repost in 5 mins & you will excell in a major event coming up sometime this month.
Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions. Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating, tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best. Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer. Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character. one guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting colds. loves music. pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. A hott new guy/girl will catch your eye & you will catch theirs too in the next 6 days, if you repost in the next 5 mins